On the ethics of kinky holiday shopping…
Is it gauche to buy your partner toys you want them to use with you?
Discuss
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on December 7th, 2009 at 1:58 pm
Is the toy single-partner? (i.e. insertable, not easily cleaned, not easily covered, likely to draw blood, that sort of thing) If not, you’re probably in the clear. If so, hmm…
on December 7th, 2009 at 2:39 pm
Oh, that’s a good way of thinking about it.
on December 7th, 2009 at 8:13 pm
I think it’s only gauche if it’s really a gift for you disguised as a gift for your partner. As long as you have some reason to believe they’d enjoy the toy, go for it!
on December 16th, 2009 at 3:23 pm
It is perfectly acceptable provided you don’t pretend you are doing something else.
Obviously, as Orion pointed out, if it isn’t single-partner and you assume they would like playing with it, you’re in the clear.
If it is single partner, then obviously the gift is the chance to use that shiny thing on YOU!
One would like to think one’s partner would enjoy something guaranteed to get a strong reaction, but then that might just be my personal reaction-junkie bias showing.
on December 17th, 2009 at 1:37 am
No more gauche than someone buying lingerie for a partner or a shoe fetishist buying shoes for a partner.
on December 20th, 2009 at 12:35 pm
I’m with Victor on this one.
on December 25th, 2009 at 3:01 pm
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