Practice Makes Perfect
Sex research is fascinating. One of the things I love about teaching my sexuality course is getting to read all of the new research that gets published each year. For example, the study that found that 65% of men have a style of masturbation that contains types of stimulation impossible to recreate during partner sex.
Now, that statistic isn’t, in and of itself, all that interesting. What is interesting is the recommendation it leads to - for both men and women. Specifically this : if you want to have more orgasms during partner sex, then bring yourself to orgasm in ways that are achievable during partner sex. For example, women who cross their legs tightly when masturbating can’t replicate that same sort of sensation during partner sex and this can inhibit their ability to orgasm with a partner.
This advice is both completely obvious and something that never would have occurred to me. It may also both explain some things about my sex life.
You know, I hate that I come from a culture that made me think being able to, basically, orgasm by thinking about sex was a bad thing that I had to train myself out of. Still, what can be done can theoretically be undone, and, if nothing else, the retraining should be enjoyable in and of itself.
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on July 18th, 2008 at 1:21 pm
Found your (lovely and wonderful!) blog….um from someone’s blogroll, now I don’t know whose lol. Anyway, this post reminded me of my sister’s post earlier today (http://conuly.livejournal.com/1438521.html) and which is exactly why, although I do have a rule now that certain things are done In Your Room, I don’t keep my kids from masturbating - or make them feel weird about it. (Though, seriously, my kids are waaaaaaay into themselves! Guess they take after me…)
on July 18th, 2008 at 1:23 pm
Thanks for the compliment! And your sister’s post is awesome, I’m glad you pointed me at it.
on July 18th, 2008 at 1:53 pm
Just for context, if you should read any of her LJ, my kids are the ones she watches during the week. And I do love that post which is why I had to share
OH and I realized who I found you through: http://sexualspiritualist.blogspot.com/ (whose party I will be at tmrw btw)
I am rather obsessively readin your older posts now…though there are so many I *would* comment on that I am contenting myself instead with just reading more!